Reviewed by Karis A. Williams, MSMHC, LPC
Nobody has a perfect relationship. And nobody behaves perfectly in their relationships. We all have our flaws and our issues. But, maintaining a healthy relationship in spite of our flaws and humanity can still be a normal thing. But what happens when you find yourself in a toxic relationship? How do you know if you are in a toxic relationship?
There are definite markers that can indicate if you are in a toxic relationship. Once you identify these markers and compare them to specific experiences in your relationship, you can get a better idea of whether you are in a healthy–or not so healthy–relationship. Taking this toxic relationship quiz can help you pinpoint common pitfalls of relationship issues that may be harming you.
But first, let’s take a closer look at toxic relationships and some of the issues surrounding them.
We all do unhealthy things. And even though we don’t WANT to hurt our partners, coworkers, family members, or neighbors, from time to time we will. And then we will work it out with them, apologize, and hopefully move on in relationship with them, healed and healthier.
But sometimes, people do hurt those they “love” the most. And they do it intentionally. They see people as property or a means to get what they want. So it doesn’t bother them to treat others poorly. And that is a toxic relationship.
Depending on the level of toxicity in someone, they may be able to heal and begin to relate in healthy ways to others in their lives. Or they may continue to abuse those around them, knowing that nobody can force them to behave in healthy ways. You will likely need to spend some time with a professional counselor and listen to friends who are close enough to see your situation for what it is. They will be able to help you know how you should proceed in the future.
If you think you are in any danger in your relationship, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). Or you can visit online at thehotline.org.
If you need more information regarding whether your toxic relationship can be saved, click here.
And now that you have a pretty good idea, let’s take this religious narcissist test! But don’t stress about it. It is only 24 questions designed to help you recognize narcissistic behavior anywhere you see it. It also isn’t meant to be a diagnosis or professional psychological help. You will have to go to a licensed clinician for that! But this will help to educate you on what signs to look for so you can learn what steps to take next to get yourself in a good place.
Table of Contents
Instructions for the Quiz to See if You are in a Toxic Relationship.
Instructions: There will be 27 questions that you need to answer yes or no on. Upon completing the test, directly beneath you will see the answers and there will be an explanation as to whether you could possibly be dealing with a spiritual narcissist.
And with that, let’s begin!
#1. Do you feel nervous when you are around this person?
#2. Are you very careful about everything you do so you don’t make this person upset with you or your choices?
#3. Do you feel obligated to follow all of this person’s suggestions or ideas?
#4. Does it make you uncomfortable to have a different opinion or idea than this person?
#5. Does this person call you out in front of other people, making you feel ashamed or embarrassed?
#6. Do you feel like this person “keeps you accountable” to them for everything you want to do? Do you feel like you are stuck “under their thumb?”
#7. Does this person make you feel like you are disloyal or disobedient to them if you do not do what they want you to or do what they don’t want you to?
#8. Do you feel like you get “rewards” or favors if you live up to this person’s expectations?
#9. Do you feel like this person keeps you so involved with them that you don’t feel like you have time for yourself or time with others?
#10. Do you always feel like you’ve done something wrong when you are with this person? A sense of “doom?”
#11. Does this person make threats to you?
#12. Do you feel like you have to hide things from this person in order for them to not be displeased with you?
#13. Does this person prioritize his own expectations over things that you want to do, say, or be?
#14. Do you feel like you never measure up? You never feel like you are good enough?
#15. Does this person make you feel like if you try to leave the relationship with them, that you are doing something incredibly wrong or harmful?
#16. Does this person make you feel like if you part ways with them, you will be damaging your own reputation?
#17. If you try to talk about something that is bothering you that this person has done, do they excuse the behavior away or always have some excuse for their bad behavior toward you?
#18. Do you lie about or hide your sadness, fears, insecurities, or depression because you are afraid they will be upset if they know how you really feel?
#19. Does this person make you fear them in order to get you to do things they want you to do that you wouldn’t ordinarily do?
#20. Does this person make you feel stupid about the way you look or mistakes you make, or imperfections in your life?
#21. Are you afraid of trying new things because you are afraid of being seen as less than perfect by this person?
#22. Does this person try to make you do things against your conscience and then tell you that it’s normal when you know it really isn’t?
#23. Does this person tell you that you’re crazy or there’s something really wrong with you when you disagree with them?
#24. Does this person try to change your reality? Even when you know you’re right? But then their insistence that you’re wrong makes you second guess what you knew was right?
#25. Does this person later deny things that you know they said or did?
#26. Do you guard your words in order to keep this person from getting angry at you?
#27. Do you stop talking about yourself, your plans, your dreams, or other things because you want to stay under the radar?
Results
There seem to be some signs of toxicity in your relationship. You likely have some questions about where to go from here. Here is an article to get you started:
You may also want to talk to some friends who have a good sense about these things or have experienced similar relationships in their past. They can help you find some balance.
You may also want to set up a consultation with Marie by either phone or Zoom call. She can help you gain some clarity as you figure out what is best for you as you move into healing. If you have any questions, contact Marie here.
It may also be a good idea to speak with a counselor who is experienced in difficult relationships.
If you feel unsafe or that you could be in any danger, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). Or you can visit online at thehotline.org.
Although things may not be perfect, it looks like you don’t have to worry about being in a toxic relationship!
You may still have some uncertainty or questions. And everyone has things they need to work on.
If you think that things don’t feel right, it’s always a good idea to talk with a safe friend or family member, or even a counselor.
If you have any questions, contact Marie here.
Interested in more quizzes? Check these out:
Is S/he a Covert Narcissist? Take This Quiz to Find Out
Quiz: Is S/he a Religious Narcissist?
Quiz: Are You Being Spiritually Abused?
More quizzes are being added regularly!
Blessings and hugs,
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